Teens dating young older adults
Another possible factor is the rise of individualism, a cultural system that places more emphasis on the self and less on social rules and relationships with others. Stable relationships are on the decline, with fewer marriages and less community involvement.Indicators of individualism—including more positive self-views, more unique names, less religion, and more equality and tolerance—are all higher now in the U. Individualism works well for young people, who are often unattached and working on finding themselves—adolescence and young adulthood are inherently self-focused life stages.Past research has found that people grow steadily happier as they age from adolescence to older adulthood, with happiness peaking when people reach their 60s and 70s; the moodiness of youth subsides, and maturity brings more contentment.But our analysis found that this was no longer true: In the last five years, the once-reliable correlation between age and happiness among adults has vanished. But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage). It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.It’s impossible to know for sure why adults are less happy, while adolescents and young adults are happier—there’s no way to do a true experiment, which would have to randomly assign people to live in different eras.
Happiness is sometimes defined as reality divided by expectations: One study, for example, found that the amount of a monetary payoff after a game didn’t matter for players’ happiness—what mattered was whether the dollar amount was more or less than they study instructions had led them to expect.
I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.
Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.
So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.
Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.