It is important to avoid slips and confusions like this when you’re online dating, because it gives a person the impression that you he or she is easily interchangeable with someone else - which isn’t good for anybody’s ego.
There is a particular danger of this happening if you are carrying on a number of correspondences at once.
Keep to the point, ask and answer questions and only supply details if they are interesting. I just had to nip out to the shops for 10 minutes …” It’s great to keep in constant contact, but only if you both feel the same about it.
It’s a better idea to make the other person curious about you by supplying a few hints than to weigh him or her down with your life story. Certainly in the early stages of a correspondence, less can be more.
And it’s worth checking through each message before you send it!
Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.
Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile.
Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.