Dating someone out of my league
If you’re continually drawn to people who have qualities you lack, consider developing those qualities for yourself.
We could be talking creative abilities, athletic skills, social popularity, sense of style.
Of course if you’re looking for a sexual relationship, you also want a partner who’s sexy to you, but once again, keep the focus on who is sexy to you and not who is going to impress your friends or society at large.
My best friend is attracted to people who are good at practical, hands-on skills like carpentry or auto maintenance.
I was so fixated on having a partner at all, and with how great a match our friends thought we were, that I didn’t pay attention to how I felt when I was with them.
I didn’t notice how much of the time I spent bored, or just doing date stuff because that’s what we were supposed to be doing.
Sure, there were some good times, but I didn’t have nearly as much fun with them as I did with my friends.
Ginny Brown is a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism, as well as a speaker and educator specializing in sexuality and relationships.